The Carlisle Mosquito Online

Friday, October 19, 2001

Mosquito Mail

Parents should teach by example

To the Editor:

Lately I have noted several instances around town where parents are not taking a leadership role in their child's civil education. The Carlisle Schools have made civility a top priority on campus for years but these educators should be operating in the role of reinforcing norms of respectful behavior taught and modeled by the parents.

I was at the FNL meeting Kathy Hassey wrote about in her letter of 10/12. The disrespectful behavior of many parents was appalling. I remember thinking at the time that a threat to suspend the meeting until there was quiet might have helped. Possibly these parents heard the party line in previous years. Did they not realize and appreciate that their own child's safety depended on the new members learning the rules? In addition to not being quiet themselves, these parents played no role in making sure their children were quiet.

I read Kathy's letter upon return from my son's soccer game. Only 11 of the 18 boys on the roster showed up. The good news was that we didn't have to forfeit the game but those boys had to play every minute since there were no substitutions. Where were the seven no-shows? Only two families contacted the coaches about absences. If there were legitimate excuses among the remaining boys, the parent should have insisted that the boy call with an explanation. Parents should not have tolerated any non-legitimate excuse. When a person signs up for any kind of team he/she makes a commitment to be an active participant of that team's effort for the duration of that team's existence. Children need to be taught that life lesson by their parents.

As a Trustee of the Gleason Library, I have worked with the director and staff on this fall's "Quiet Campaign" for our facility. Overall, it has gone very well. However, some of our more challenging young patrons are picked up by parents who, themselves, are not quiet in the library. Mirroring what they have been taught by example, these children feel unfairly targeted when asked to be respectful of others' need for quiet.

Parents, part of the implied contract of the job, is to teach our children responsible, respectful, civil behavior. We need to do a better job. Let's start by example.

Mary Cheever
Carrol Drive

Planning board clarification

To the Editor:

There were several aspects of the Mosquito article on Berry Corner Lane two weeks ago that need to be clarified with regard to the planning board's involvement. The history of the planning board's role began when they denied approval of the Valchuises' building lot due to rules and regulations in force at the time Berry Corner Lane was approved, many years ago. The Valchuises appealed the decision and that litigation has not been settled. All of the negotiating and permitting in recent years are an effort by the Valchuises to resolve the issues and settle the appeal.

While the ongoing litigation does not allow us to explicitly discuss the case publicly, there are some facts that need to be stated. First, the planning board has not agreed to any resolution of the case, either publicly or privately. The Valchuises filed court documents claiming the board had reneged on an agreement; the judge on the case dismissed that claim.

Second, the planning board did not require that all residents of the lane sign an agreement to maintain the lane; the planning board simply felt that the Valchuises' "we'll do the best we can" commitment to maintain the lane in an improved condition was not adequate.

Finally, the planning board's involvement with the lane is limited to the original denial and ensuing appeal. The recent, disputed construction on the lane is outside the jurisdiction of the planning board and the board has no authority to intervene.

Michael Abend
Planning Board

Carlisle Comments brought back memories

To the Editor:

When I read Irene Blake's piece, "Hanging Out The Wash," in the October 28 issue, I found myself reminiscing about laundry days in my childhood. I grew up in Brooklyn, NY and my family and I lived in a Victorian-era brownstone house with a "postage stamp size" backyard. The large kitchen held three soapstone wash tubs with enamel coated metal lids (used as counter tops except for laundry days). The tubs were used for soaking, washing, and rinsing clothes. Wash was hung on lines in the backyard, and I recall it was discouraging when occasionally a frozen line broke on a winter's day. On rainy or snowy days, the wash was hung on lines crisscrossing the kitchen, and somehow my mother still got the meals preparedno fast food or running out to Burger King in the 1940s or '50s.

I wonder how many kids today know what a washboard is and how to use it? In these anxious times, it's somehow reassuring to focus on mundane rituals such as "laundry day."

Barbara Ritz
Groton, Mass.

Sleeper Room meant to be community room

To the Editor:

In a town where senior citizens receive very few services, it is unfortunate that the Carlisle Elderly Housing Association is denying the use of the Sleeper Room for the COA luncheons and men's breakfasts. Since the intended use of the Sleeper Room was for senior activities and community, it would be in the town's best interest to reconcile the differences. It seems clear that with a little effort by the Carlisle Elderly Housing Association, working with town officials and the COA, the liability and board of health matters could be worked out to everyone's satisfaction. Any impact regarding the Sleeper Room use can be aired by the public on October 29, at the Carlisle Elderly Housing Association meeting in the Sleeper Room

Lyn Courant
Virginia Farme

Gift wrap delivers the goods

To the Editor:

We just wanted to say "way to go Carlisle!" We have had an excellent response to the gift-wrap fund-raiser this year. Total sales exceeded $22,000 and we will have earned over $11,000 for the school. These funds will go to help support cultural enrichment programs and fund classroom "wish lists." 27 out of 38 classrooms have won a Party in a Bag.

We specifically wanted to thank the members of the gift-wrap committee including Lori Canavan, Linda Reicheld, Kathy Marchese, Jennifer Laliberté, Diane McGrory, Alison Carey, and of course, our crack advertising team, Marcy Guttadauro and Susan Mills. Thanks again to everyone who participated and to those of you who went the extra mile and sold to friends and family.

It's not too late you can still purchase gift wrap at Our school code is 106482.

Beth Platt and Debra Hankey
CSA gift wrap coordinators

Bake sale thanks

To the Editor:

Today we had a bake sale. We would like to thank the people who came and bought something. We will go to the bank and donate the money to the American Red Cross. We made $58 with your help. Your donations will help very much!

Morgan Evans (age 8),
Shane DiCristina (age 8)

2001 The Carlisle Mosquito